Kansha (Saint) - I read your post yesterday afternoon and it's been on my mind so much. I often wonder at the things your H says to you and actually thinks is okay. I'm not always sure whether it just seems like verbal abuse or if it's just the way I interpret what you write.
At this point, you might need to do something different. He seems very stuck and I do know that they go to counselling because they know it's the right thing to do, but, if they are not going to fix the marriage, it really won't matter. Perhaps Retrouvaille was that for him.
I'm rambling, just cannot believe how your H can manipulate things financially and emotionally, over and over. Don't we all just have to work and support our families?
I'm with AlexN - you have gone beyond earning your way out of this one! Give it away and see what happens.
