Kansha dear, you know all too well what I think of your h, and in spite of my crusade to urge people to give their marriages their all, I do believe you have done just that. Dr. Phil talks about earning your way out, and that certainly applies to you.
At the same time, I think you need to move toward that goal, as LL said, by starting with the common theme of getting a job. This is YOUR journey now, and make sure the job you get is not just a stopgap to bring in money, but something that will bring you peace of mind. Make it a vocational choice, and not just a job. Then figure out the other stuff. Don't worry about WHY your h went to Retrouvaille -- you and he and we will never know that. Just ignore him and move on.
