Happiness, is it even possible.

[MJontheMend]

I am not familar with this definition. This seems to make the wifes role as receptive, where is assertive in this? Where is desire?

The GGG rule applies to women and men. It describes what you could/should reasonably expect from a reasonable lover. Desire is not a reasonable expectation because people can't control their desire. For instance, Let's say you were with a woman who had a fantasy that you would dress up like a circus clown and do perverse things with your nose. Would this turn you on? Would you do it anyway? Would you do it because turning her on would turn you on? Would you do it because she gave you a great blow-job last night? Would you do it because you loved her? Would you do it because you were afraid she'd leave you and run away and join the circus if you didn't? Would you do it just because you want to maintain the standard of being GGG? Great sex is rarely a compromise. Great sex happens when both people get just what they selfishly desire. What does your wife selfishly desire? Do you have a clue?