When discussing the concept of higher quality sex, I suppose it would be appropriate to use the standard set by Savage and assume that you want your wife to be a lover who is "good", "giving" and "game".
I am not familar with this definition. This seems to make the wifes role as receptive, where is assertive in this? Where is desire?
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If your real problem is not that you simply want better sex but that you need a display of desire from your wife in order to feel desirable then that is another matter altogether.
Does this mean that I should be ok if I am not desired? I would think that virtually EVERYONE, even LD's want to be desired. I am not sure why we are telling HD men that us guys just have to give up the whole desire thing, while everyone else GETS TO HAVE IT.
When it comes right down to it, aren't relationships ALL ABOUT DESIRE? I really have a hard time trying to get to the point where sex is just a physical process and I should not use it for validation in anyway.
