My H has been in MLC since 1997 as far as I can trace back. Things started to get really bad in 1999. My story is in the MLC Forum. "The Long Road Home- an MLC journey".
I've been at this so long that most people just shake their heads in wonder .
I do agree that Retrouvaille is further in your future. Your H like mine, needs a cave to muttle in.
Wow, your kids actually listened to you(when your H was in the angry stage) and stayed quiet. My D(teen) became infuriated, well... uh... so did I, until I learned to deal with my own anger. My poor little gentle soul s though.
I'm glad my posts are helpful. This letting go thing is so hard for a fixer.
I fell right back into my old pattern without even noticing it. Thanks for your beautiful words, I enjoy reading your threads too.
BTW, I think you live near where I grew up. All my family is still there. I go back to visit from time to time. I've tried to get together with Snodderly a few times but I never could swing it.
Kansha, wishing you peace and inner stillness with which to hear God whisper in your ear... "Lily, have faith, God loves you!You can let go, I will catch you and Sage, let ME carry your burdens for awhile!"
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until I learned to deal with my own anger. My poor little gentle soul s though. 