MJ let me pipe in here if I may, if I remember corectly I think in the past Mrs.Cemar did not show much inhibitions towards oral sex and was GGG in the begining of the relationship. My wife was GGG in the begining of the relationship as well as far as trying anything. You can reduce your need for validation and change the dynamics of the situation but how do you help someone regain their ability to be GGG or even ggg. They truely have to want it for them selves that is frustrating.
Different people here talk from different places, Cemars frustration, pain and anger is a huge part of the HD/LD story and I think that's why people tend to be down on him, they want their own pain, frustration and anger just to go away.
