sounds like you've got the right idea...many times over the summer (while h was not here and there appeared to be no hope) when I lay in bed alone I asked god for two things..1. the strength to let go and let h do what he needs to do..2. to help h to find peace.
well it seemed to work as h came home...
but just as you...I have forgotten to leave it alone..I thought that since h was now home..we could start doing the work together..thing is h still has some work of his own to do and apparently so do I.
it's a long road home Kansha...and at times we may stepp in dog sh!t. (like the way you handled h with that one..way to db!! ) but eventually we will get there. if we only let the man with the plan do the driving.