OL, I've found my friends and family to be very supportive, and surprisingly so. Don't be afraid to reach out to people. I was embarrased to admit that I can't keep my W,but it turns out a lot of people are in the same boat and it's not looked down on by most. (warning though, friends and family have their own lives too and sometimes won't have time for you. You need to really rely on yourself most).
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she been bugging me to tell my best friend about all this...thinks its my place to do so
Only do it if you want to. She doesn't get to decide. You do. Set your boundaries and only do what you feel comfortable doing.
I think I remember you writing that if you give up the pain it's like losing her and the love. I know that feeling. It's really hard to get over. I think time helps some. The pain isn't the same as the R or the love. You can give up the pain. It takes hard work and some time though.
Separation may or may not bring you closer - I think it will help your peace of mind and give you more space to establish the detachment and do the GALing you need to do. I will be separated in about 3 months too. My separation will be more friendly, but it will still hurt me, but I think it will also give me some space that I need too. And, it will give her some space that she needs. It could be a positive, over time. Have faith. Have faith that you will survive and you can come out of this better than before.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
