LL, I'm so Happy you came to visit me on my thread!!!!!
I'm doing okay now that I've (again) given up trying to fix things.
How are you? I think it is great that you are listing all the positives that are happening in your relationship with your H. Hugs to you!
Okay, One of my new goals is to Give my H and my relationship over to God. (yes, again) To accomplish this I will pray often and ask for God's help.
I tried to take back control during our Retrouvaille process because there are things TO DO. So I got a little overzealous and went into my "fix-it" mode.
Last night my H was Raging. He was upset about the dog excrement not getting picked up in a timely fashion and because of this he was stepping in it on his trek to and from his studio (cave)
He was abusive to S9 and I about it which, caused S9 to get hives and my stomach to become knotted. So, instead of the old me getting outraged at how he was handling his upset. I just clearly set a boundary and explained that the way he was talking to us was not acceptable and that it was having the opposite result from what he intended. It just made us hope he stepped in more. I said that we are more then happy to come up with a solution to this problem. ( And NO I did not say: "Well, if you didn't insist on sleeping out there in the first place you wouldn't have this problem," lol)
Not only did he appologize proffusely, he said he was mortified at how he had treated us. (He used to rage like that constantly, that first year or two so this is a definate improvement)
He is having a tough time right now and he is really stressed. So, I need to lighten up a little. (He's in between contracts) so he needs to come up with a new contract so that we have money coming in. He also has an infection which doesn't help matters. I really need to let God do His work and try to be less insistent that things go at my pace.
Thanks to everyone who comes to read my thread. Won't you please stop in and say hi? I hope everyone is well and is going to keep the PMA up for the holidays. My prayers are with each and everyone of you.
