Same old process of conflict, withdraw, and connecting has played out in our R. BB doesn't want us to live in two different houses, so she is acting friendlier than normal.
Yes, we did look at a few houses, but BB didn't like the house or location. In addition to many other reasons, this time her pickiness worked in my favor.
I think I need to stick to my idea, that BB see an orthopedist and a physical therapist before any "elderly friendly" houses are bought or constructed. BB still walks on the treadmill 3X a week, so that gives some indications that her knee problems are not critical.
We have a split-entry house and there are 7 steps from the drive-way level, to the main floor. I have carried anything heavy from the lower level to the main level and visa-versa for many years.
I said moving to a new house wouldn't fix her knee problem so do the knee thing before she moves. I see the different house as an extension of BB wanting to or feeling like she has to keep up with the Jones'.
Another question I have, if "we" (BB's term) need to be down sizing and are giving away 25% of our clothing, why do "we" need walk-in-closets?
Lil asked why her bf buys things and doesn’t follow up on dispersing the items, plants not planted in the ground and food not refrigerated or sent.
One thing that might be similar is, some people see the money in a checking account but don't spend much mental time thinking about the work that was required to earn the money, to put into the checking account. They can see the money/benefits but don't mentally see the work it takes to get the money there or from the start of a job to the final end product.
In some ways it is what caused Lil’s bf to build her a pantry. On a good day, projects are envisioned, planned, worked on, and carried out to the end. On lesser days, projects are envisioned, started, delays happen, the vision is lost, and things wind up unfinished or become trash.
I also think people that have things given to them look at life/things less seriously. There are some good things to the saying “Let kids/people work for things they want, they appreciate/respect the item/person/it more.”
