How can you be angry at fate? That’s like saying you are angry because the odds did not work out in your favor. Chance was not on your side. What is there to be so angry about, and to hold that anger for so long? Your explanation does not make sense. It seems like an excuse, a deflection.
look, you people are the one's telling me that I'm "angry". I never claimed to be; I'm just trying to play along. yeah, I wish things had turned out differently. I wish I had won the lottery last week, too, and that the '86 Sox had won the series. I'm never going to be happy about any of those things.
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Your response is particularly troubling because it means you have come to BELIEVE the little lies your parents have perpetuated on you. You believe their view of the world is the correct one, you believe that you do not deserve to feel your own wants, that if you do, those wants will not be met. That is a narcissistic family setting.
what lies?
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...And if you don’t know that, how will you ever learn your own feelings? [quote] Whenever I do recognize and express a "feeling", it comes back to bite me in the arse, big time. (as was the case here. Fear that something bad may have happened.) [quote] Yet life is scary and chaos is all around you. After all, your parents want you to be “more independent.” The best way to protect your self and survive is to control your environment the best way you can. For some that might mean acting out, turning to drugs, or becoming very analytical, cool and controlled. That’s how Mr. Spock is made.
