COG- I had to stop by and see how you were doing. AND to say that i'm finally understanding some of the things you would keep telling me-was it a year ago already??? yeah, so I'm a slow learner.
my situation hasn't changed much, but *I* have. My attitude has changed, Thank God. I'm not as horridly self-righteous as i used to be...still far to go, but i'm working on it. i'm glad to see that you've made such progress with your lady. It's still comforting to read your posts.
I haven't come here for some time--I've been way too busy til now but I'll be back to keep up with my friends. take care! jacqm
have you guys checked in with FIB today? He hit a rough spot with the ...."wife"... I did post to him, but thought I'd give you a heads up. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Guys, would it be so wrong for me to fly out there and smack her in the face to slap some sense into her?
Still, it is good to see men like you guys around. Yet, such a waste of our lives and time. I know, we GROW from adversity, being tested, etc.
Just once though, I'd like to be "tested" by winning a billion dollars, to see if I would share it, or be selfish... j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Nothing really to share here unless people want to learn how to fix up your messed up life after DB'ing works...
Actually that could be at the very least a whole new forum section. I'm on a pretty good road these days too. Occasionally I'm reminded of how I was over the last few years. Some action or just the results of my own attitude. Others didn't know what was going on or even attribute anything to my attitude or responses. Only I knew I wasn't operating at anywhere near my potential and I saw the results of that, others didn't (at least I think). Very tough being in a leadership position when all you want to do is crawl in a hole. I can't tell you how much I longed for being in some menial job without much responsibility.
But in the end, despite any damage we have done to our own lives, I feel our abilities have developed so much by this process that we'll very soon surpass where we would have been had the damage not been done. I believe this is true whether we are speaking of business, our relationships, or our spirituality. Doesn't matter, it's true for all.
Guys, would it be so wrong for me to fly out there and smack her in the face to slap some sense into her?
Yep, that would be wrong. That's partly the reason she left in the first place, too many slaps in the face from ME.
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Still, it is good to see men like you guys around. Yet, such a waste of our lives and time. I know, we GROW from adversity, being tested, etc.
I am a MAN 25years, and I'm doing what any other man would do in my sitch. I really don't consider it a waste of time, definately not. It's a calling, I'm called to stand. It's really hard to explain but I know without one shred of doubt that I'm in the right place, doing the right thing. That alone is a precious gift, I feel really good about life right now.
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Just once though, I'd like to be "tested" by winning a billion dollars, to see if I would share it, or be selfish...
Hee, hee, yep, would'nt that be a nice test.
God Bless,
COG
My Story http://www.divorcebusting.com/forum...&Number=660444&page=2#Post660444
I'm in the right place, doing the right thing. That alone is a precious gift, I feel really good about life right now.
Beautiful.... I do believe it is hard to explain, to others, when you have THIS sense of peace and yet still allow yourself to see your partner as human and vent once in awhile. We are after all human. Keep being you, that is all I can say~
