This is my first post and really my first time visiting this site. I bought the book Divorce Remedy yesterday and hope that it will help. I am a Christian and put my hope and expectations on Jesus Christ. Now the rest of the story.......
I have been married for over 7 years and have two beautiful girls(2yr,5yrs). For the last year I have felt the wall go up between my wife and I. I made some feeble attempts to bring down the wall but I'm now on this site so things got worse. Unfortunately, all my efforts were for not and my wife got involved in an emotional affair with a guy she works with. The thought of my wife sharing and being with this SOB makes me sick.
She is constantly battling in her mind the want to talk with the OM and knowing that it is immoral. She and I are in counseling, but not together.. she doesn't want to do anything to reconcile our relationship. She has told me a few times now that she doesn't want to spend the rest of here life with me.(ouch) And that she doesn't love me and doesn't think she ever did. She is also saying that this is not about the OM and that she doesn't love him, and that she needs to find herself.
Through all this a lot of her past history has been nudging its way into our marriage. She was sexually assaulted as a teenager and feelings that came with that event came into our marriage bed....I now see that this was an event that she ran from and never dealt with but it is causing her to look for comfort outside our marriage. And now it looks like it may end our marriage.
There is a lot more to the story but I don't want to be to winded on my first post....I love my wife dearly and want my marriage to work but at this time she doesn't want anything to do with me our our marriage.
