Jack - just remember that you are a different fairy tale so you don't feel offended. You are Jack and the bean stalk - XBIL is a Jacka$$, er I mean Jack from Jack and Jill (who by the way fell down and broke his crown...... - he is going to if is he isn't careful...! )
You guys are in my thoughts and prayers too. This journey has been difficult. It seems since January - it has been even worse because the state of limbo I was in with the "6 month waiting game" didn't involve me having to crank through any D paperwork. But the refinancing nightmare, the flip flopping by Jill, and the D paperwork have taken its toll on me lately. I must regroup myself..... I am getting there, but it has been a slow road since January.
I spoke to Jill this morning. We are signing all of the paperwork today. I finished the D paperwork last night and other than a final look over from each of our L, she is planning to sign all of it. Fitting since today is the 1 year anniversary of the bomb. Seems so long ago in some ways, yet seems like yesterday for others. I am eager for this stuff to be signed and Jill out of my home and my life. I still feel sorry for her, yet her flip flopping and eratic behavior as of late have me feeling more anger towards her than pity. I think much of this anger has to do with how this affects my children. D11 said mommy's relationship with uncle Jack "really creeps her out." May God bless my children and watch over them. I will protect them as much as I can, but I will need God's help.
After we sign the paperwork, we only have to wait for the judge to give a court date - then her L goes in front of the judge stating the couple has already signed everything and then it is done. Like I said, I cannot wait for this nightmare to end and look forward to the lifting of this burden.
I have a question for you guys. Jill will move her stuff out within 30 days after it being final. I am a forgiving person, but Jack has pursued Jill for years and betrayed me in so many ways (Jill has to, but resolving the D issues has resolved some of it...). I have already told her that Jack will not be allowed to set foot in my home. I am prepared to be a real jerk about it if he shows up. I don't know why I feel this way, but I just do. It is not about letting Jill go - I already have a long time ago. It is not about coming to terms with Jill's R with Jack. It is about the destruction this could have on my children and the betrayal I have suffered at their irreverant hands. Just looking for some opinions.
Take care. I still need to catch up on your stiches.....
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