Shades, Yes I know that he will need to "crash" I just hope the "crash" doesn't also take his life. I can deal with him hitting a rock bottom emotional state. I just hope that is where it stops. And then he can find a way up from there.
Unfortunately my XH surrounds himself with other "addicts" who all cope with the stresses of life in unhealthy and maladaptive ways. Not that my ways are always healthy and great, but at least if I am hurting someone I am only hurting myself. (I cry and over think and talk about the same things over and over and over and over.) I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs, don't hide from my reality, don't escape into "fictional worlds", don't try to buy things to fill the voids, or just run from my problems and shut them out (Because if you can't see them or talk to them there is no longer a problem.)
I don't know. I just worry. And I guess I don't want the guilt on me if anything bad does happen. THanks! r2
