Don't make the mistake of trying to assess blame in the relationship. You be 100% responsible for your half of the relationship. That includes having sex with hubby. Hubby needs to be 100% responsible for his half of the relationship. That includes treating you with respect.
I take 100% of the responsibility for my half of the relationship, but I will not take responsibility for the whole relationship. That is where I need to set another boundary. I'm responsible for having sex with H and he's responsible for treating me with respect. I also think that he's responsible for having sex with me, and I'm responsible for treating him with respect. I believe that H and I could agree on what "having sex" means, but I'm not sure we can agree on what "respect" means. I remember a thread a while ago about respect and I was surprised to read that sometimes men and women define respect differently. I suspect this could become another point of misunderstanding between us.
