Listen to Jen when she tells you to be patient with yourself. It took me a loooooooooong time to really trust that my H wasn't going to change his mind and leave me. I now trust H, but I am *still* dealing with my feelings about the letter woman Jen mentioned, above. Honestly, I don't know if I will ever completely get over my feelings about her. I sort of have fantasies about all her over-permed, over-bleached hair falling out....ooooo....gives me goosebumps even now, 6 months after H really recommitted to our M.

Be gentle with yourself, and if you're not in MC, go. You need to be able to work through your feelings honestly with your H. Truly, it was being able to be completely honest in MC about this witch and my H moving from wanting us to all be friends to saying being friends with her was NOT worth the price of his marriage that has helped me trust him again.

Be kind to yourself. Your feelings are natural....

SD

Me: 40
H: 43
H had EA from 2/06-9/06
Bomb 5/06
Piecing since 9/2006
3/2008: Boundary setting
7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb.
8/2010: Marriage finally on track!