Quote: --------------------------------------------------- And I can't help but think that sex sometimes gets put on a higher pedestal than other LLs. It seems that way to me sometimes. ---------------------------------------------------
That's because sex is the only "need" that can only be met in its entirety inside of a monogamous relationship.
You can get other needs at least partially met via other venues.
Don't make the mistake of trying to assess blame in the relationship. You be 100% responsible for your half of the relationship. That includes having sex with hubby. Hubby needs to be 100% responsible for his half of the relationship. That includes treating you with respect.
MrsNOP and I have been where you two are. For now, I think it would be very wise if the two of you would set aside any idea of "fair". You won't find the solution to your problem by assessing blame.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
