No forward movement in the divorce. No new paperwork, and no divorce on april 16th. L is out of town after tomorrow and then I will be on vacation. Sorry TJ.
Had an email from his sister. FIL is having some semi serious surgery. It is not cancer, and it is not heart, but he is the sole caretaker for MIL who opted to go to a nursing home while FIL is in the hospital. TJ will be sitting with SIL for surgery tomorrow, that is great of him. SIL is hoping to talk to TJ tomorrow. I wonder if OW will come. I am guessing yes. I am posting this and updating more later. Talking to Bookpusher.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I'm back.. If you have not had the pleasure, I want to give a compliment to my friend Bookpusher. She is one of the best! She is so understated and fun that I hope you do not miss the experience of her friendship. She is terrific. OK, back to ME!!!!!!
Are you bored yet?
I am.
Well, just to test the waters, I called TJ on my plan period. He answered. If he is irritated, he answers (first name, last name).. He answered in an upbeat "hello". Now he never had time for personal phone calls before. He must have a cushy job, or he really likes to talk to me. So I ask about his dad, and he went on for awhile. I am learning, I did not interupt. He mumbles, so it is hard to understand, but he is downplaying the whole thing. It sounded just like a conversation that we had in our marriage relationship. I ask him if he would let me know how the surgery went. He said he would. Then he ask about me. As per C advise, I shared a few tidbits about things I have done with our daughters. He seemed a interested, and I think, left out. He did not know about D20 banquet. I ask him to give his family my love. He said he would do that. We talked a bit about taxes, and then we said goodbye. In a nice friendly way. Not a send off, "see ya"..... more that sing songy " goodbye" that I know (and love) so well.
So now the D will be almost 1 year old. It is not moving forward. Not one inch.
I wonder who will be blamed for this.
I will need to sign the tax stuff on Sunday night, April 15th. We will have to get it in the mail that night. So I guess I will see him the night before the divorce hearing?
That could be interesting.
How did that timing happen?
I wonder if OW will be there. She might insist on it. Tomorrow I have a DB coaching session.
Joanne, if you read you are terrific! I can't wait to talk to you......
Take care friends. This is always open to discussion and advice.
I am taking it slowly and letting TJ set the pace.
Hugs and High Fives, Holly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
Yes, it is good. But it seems like it is more of the same. I can't decide if patience is required, or a 180 to jive things up.
I am going to the beach. The other 2 are younger and cuter than I am, and it will be fun to hang out with them. Get some sun, look terrrrrrific for April 16th......
Include my FIL in your thoughts and prayers tonight. He is a special kind of saint.
I am hoping for the best tomorrow. HOlly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I spoke to Sister in law this morning. She has met other woman, and she confirms that she is just like me. She said it was uncanny. She also said she is starting to see TJ be "manipulative" of her. She does not think she will put up with it. The whole family does not see any future in this relationship.
Yipee!!!!!!!!!
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
I have heard that OW are the opposite, or the same as you. But TJ is starting to show signs of wear and tear in the relationship. THat, and he has not done anything for the divorce yet. It will not happen April 16th. I spoke with Joanne today. DB coach. I really get the support I crave. TJ was suppose to let me know how his Dad is. I do want to know. I have never heard of this kind of surgery before. I will have to wait. He probably had to take her with him and he can not contact me. How frustrating that must be. His whole family agrees, this R with OW will not last. They see it already. One of the things that Joanne and I talked about is mirroring . You mirror the behavior of the person you are trying to attract. In words and deeds. THis is very interesting, as they feel connected to you, and view you as a soulmate.
Very interesting concept.
Had a busy day. I am on a cloud. Someone bring me back to earth. Holly
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.
At least not COLD!!