ST this is wonderful!!! I am really happy for you. Have a great time at the movie. And glad you're finding some positives even in the rough patches.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
okay, so we didn't go to a movie. H was very tired, and we've had more problems with our new vehicle. but luckily the dealer we purchased from is going to help with the cost, even though it's not covered. cool huh?
We did however go out to eat with a friend of his that was in town.
And my H did come up behind me right before we had to leave and..well...you know what comes next
ya nikki, I need to keep finding those good things among the rough.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Aw sorry to hear about the movie, but glad you got to spend some time together. Glad for the dealer's help, too, that's great!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I did have an interesting moment tonight. H came home and I hadn't left yet..well when kids are here I sent him a txt saying it would be nice to get a heads up if he won't be home in time. Well, he says, "I got home early so you could leave, and you haven't left yet"...I'm like, the kids aren't here, why would you do that, then back and forth couple times, and then I'm like, I planned on leaving at 6, and it was 5:58. So then I leave and it's 6:02, and I said, I'm leaving..on time. He says, don't rush since your late...I kinda give him the finger...it's a joke for me to do that to him...and he laughed, and then said it again, about me being late and be careful. I could tell then he was tryin to be funny, but he still made me a little mad.
But guess what? All that above is really nothing, but it's the text he sends me later. Says, "I'm sorry, I was just messing with you, didn't mean for you to leave upset" WOW, it is sooooo cool when he appologizes. So so weird. He like, really cares how I feel now.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Yes ST he does - and that is SO GREAT!!! Happy for you.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
AND, H wanted to go to movie last night and not go clubing (I love to dance, and he's never taken me. only if other people were there, okay, that only happened once 3 years ago) Sad huh. He danced with me the first night we met...and he's a good dancer too.
Anyways, he calls his buddy to go with us to movie. kinda irritated on that cause we NEVER go out alone and it's only happened once in 2 years probably. But that's okay. I felt kinda alone in the movie theatre..he wasn't talking to friend more than me, but I did notice he really looked at me one time.
Well, what is cool is that he told his friend I wanted to go to a club and to see if he'd want to go. so that was good. And actually, I think I would feel awkward being their alone with H. that's so wrong on so many levels. But it's true. Probably since it never happens I guess.
Well, we had a good time, and the guys were cracking up at me because I was being very crazy..talkin smack to em and jokin around.
My H said he did have fun, and so did I. Even got a drink paid for me. But it happened when I felt like I was going to cry because we were talking about his friend not getting "laid"..don't like that term in this context.. and that he just wants something with boobs. I'm like, no he doesn't..then he's like every single guy in here... I stopped him right there and left. said "I don't wanna hear" and went to the bar. I think he had no idea I wanted to bawl right then. I'm the flattest chested girl (besides maybe one other) in the whole bar, and all the other girls have their boobs out of their shirts. So I'm at the bar, my eyes probably red, tryin not to get upset, and this guy looks at me and says he'll buy me my drink. very cool. that's never happened before I don't think. Then I told him he made my night go better, and also told me he had been watching me a lot or something.. guy was pretty drunk. He knew I was married too cause I told him. So that was cool. I felt ALOT better after that.
and it totally reminded me of you nikki. like when that guy gave you a flower at the store.
I know I need to get over the whole boob thing, it's just really really hard. Sometimes I'm totaly okay... gata go for now
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
okay. had to get off. I really don't want H to see me getting on here anymore than he does. Not that I'm trying to be all secretive or something, but I consider this like a journal, and I'd rather him not read it.
Anyways, as I was saying, I'm totally okay. Even before the whole thing I was talking about how all the girls had their boobs all sticking out, and then about me not having any, but I got the "badonk-a-donk" in the back...shaking it around and they all cracked up.
What was crazy, is right after I talk about it I turn my head and a girl has her shirt up with NO BRA! ya, I see her naked boobs. just what I needed to see! and no one else saw it.. which I'm glad though. Then it happened to my H at the bar, then to me again later that night. 3 times! Is that ridiculous? I mean how sick it is for girls to be that flaunty to show their boobs to everyone who can see. Are places getting worse now? I NEVER EVER saw anything like that in all the years clubing when I was younger.
I wish there were bars where you could dance, and there wouldn't be major drunk people falling all over. Even one girl, that my H's friend thought was cute, ended up feeling me up and kissing me! I didn't even know what the heck to do! I just stood there in the bathroom in shock! My H was like, dang, why couldn't you guys have done it where I coulda seen it. He is so bad. Of course he's always kidding, but you know guys, they would love to see girls in "action".
So, very interesting night I must say. At least my down time only lasted a few minutes. The rest of the night was nice, we went out to eat afterwards (alone) and had a nice conversation and I didn't feel totally awkward..although I was tipsy.
The whole awkward thing. It's just that I sometimes still feel weird going out with H by myself, like we've had the kids involved in anything we do, never us alone, unless it's ML, so sometimes it's like we have nothing to talk about. I really don't want to end up like the older couples whose kids have left the house and they end up divorcing because they have lost touch with each other and don't know each other.
I just never felt that real connection with my H, so I hope someday our R can grow into a really good R.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
oops.. made a mistake on post earlier about him talking to his friend in the movie. He WAS talking to friend more than me. not wasn't. that's why I felt alone.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
I know what you mean, it always drove me nuts that H wanted to do include other people on our "dates" - although now in hindsight I understand why much better (different reasons than your H's, I imagine). How cool that you guys went to a club, that sounds like fun. Did you get to do any dancing??
Also cool that guy bought you a drink, although sorry about the circumstances. I think you're right, sometimes people just "know" when you need a pick me up (and I really admire the people who ACT on it, I'm trying to take the hint and do more of that myself.)
Sounds like fun overall, in spite of a few bumpy spots. That's great!!
And yeah... I've seen a LOT of naked boobs lately in most clubs too. Around here a lot of them break out the Mardi Gras beads around midnight or so and really encourage it.
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I just never felt that real connection with my H, so I hope someday our R can grow into a really good R.
This really jumped out at me for some reason. You may already be doing this - but have you set some goals around this, and defined WHAT a really good R looks like?? That way you can work towards it, instead of just hoping for it? Just a thought.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I can't believe your seeing all these "boobs" too. that sounds really funny. That's ridiculous. In my opinion, it just makes women look bad.
That's a good idea about setting goals on what a really good R looks like. I'm not even sure if I would know. Part of me says, someone who would talk to me about strong subjects or talk about their relationship with God. But I know that's not going to happen, at least not now. So, I don't know. I guess I'll have to think about that. Maybe it's just about me, feeling comfortable in certain situations or something.
I even said in the car on the way to the club "I guess I'm glad Roberts going, I'd probably feel weird going by ourselves" he said why, and I said, I guess since we never do.
I hope I don't discourage you for your future R with your H. I think you guys will be totally different. You guys have ALWAYS been alone. We've ALWAYS had kids. So I totally think you guys' R will be way better than ours. You just have so much time to really get to know each other. And everything you say makes it seem SO obvious that you guys will be together, and next year it will be soooooo soooo different, maybe even by this fall.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
