Wooo hoooo! You are doing some great DBing. Keep it up. Don't worry, your husband may be "having his cake and eating it too," but as you emotionally detach (but are physically around once in awhile -- when he's initiating-- to remind him how fabulous you are) that will force him to realize he's slowly starting to lose something very valuable.
Keep up what you're doing (and have fun with it too!!!). You are awesome and your outlook and attitude only make you a thousand times more attractive. That sleazy secretary has nothing on you. You ROCK!!!
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
