Out Like A Lamb

[Rollercoasterider]

I feel that it is so unfair that he can't offer me anything in terms of words.

Sweetie, I am so sorry you are in this pain. It is unfair. But unfair or not that is how it is...

If he wants me to move on with my life you'd think he'd help me a little bit by explaining whatever he's capable of doing at this point.

You'd think...but he is not capable of even that. He doesn't know what he is capable of and thinking about such things only festers his wounds.

I like Alway's idea about an e-card. Just an acknowledgement with no obligation that a gift may bring...unintended though it may be, gifts may yield guilt.

HUGS,
RCR

[Holly06]

I sent a Happy Birthday text message. 2 words. That is all. It was received very well, and little could be read into it.

[brandnewday]

((((((((HUGS)))))))))))

Thinking of you

[MissH]

Hope, I am glad to see you back posting!

I agree with everyone else, just a simple TM or e-card stating Happy Bday.

How is everything else health wise?

[peaceful_spirit]

Hope,
He's trying to figure out what happened to him. How can he answer you when he can't answer himself.

Either way, you sound good. Glad you're busy living life.

[ShadesofGrey]

Hi Hope,

I think the e-card is a good idea for H's bday.

Glad you have plans for Easter.

I bet your new niece is loads of fun for you. I'm glad you are with your family, it must be so nice.

My H told me today that since he doesn't have the kids Easter weekend and he was invited to go to The Master's he's going to go. He's checking into flights but wont be back except maybe for dinner on Easter. I can't imagine voluntarily missing my kids on a holiday! He's still way out in the sea of confusion.

How are you? Your health? I hope great!

Take care,
Shades

[Lissett]

you posted YAY.

[Sunflower23]

Hi Hope,

Thanks for stopping by my thread. I know how you feel wanting to know why and wanting to hear some words. More than likely we'd only get hurt worse by anything they said because my H has said things like he wanted to run the day we got M, I have a fairy-tale version of our R, times we've spent together were boring to him, we have nothing in common, he doesn't love me anymore, he wants to find what's out there waiting for him, blah, blah, blah. It's all bull, but it's his reality for now, I guess.

I agree with the poster above that we won't be able to move forward until we can say "what's next" but I'm not there yet either.

Hugs,
Sun

[almosthopeful]

Hope,

I'm glad you posted again. Sorry H is still stuffed down in his tunnel.

the advice to e-card him on his birthday seems good to me. You get to expression caring, but not overly intimate caring.

I know htis is hard right now hope, believe me. I'm thinking of you, and really am glad you posted again.

Hugs.
AH

[hopefloats7]

Hello again.
Thanks to all who posted and asked about me. It really means so much to me. My health is good; I still have to undergo an operation at some point but it is not an urgent, life-threatening matter, thank God (and I did!). So I am blessed in at least that department!
Just keeping busy and trying to move as much ahead as I can, that's about it. A few days ago for some reason I heard a song on the radio, I think it was called You Deserve Much Better Than Me, and I started crying thinking about what H has told me in recent months along these lines. Ugh. Sometimes I still cannot believe all this happened to our marriage. I was so sure we'd be together for the rest of our lives.
Well, now I know you can't be sure of anything.