new Here - Need help understanding Steps Backward

[RedHeadWife]

Haven't been DB'ing all that long and don't even know if I'm doing a good job -- still feel like I'm blundering through, but the bottom line is if you want your M to stay together, you need to start DB'ing and yes, stay the course. The advice I always get is get a life (GAL) -- BE THE MAN SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BE WITHOUT and/or BE THE MAN SHE DOESN'T WANT TO LOSE!!!! I've had those 2 lines go through my mind constantly and it truly makes sense! Do the 180 stuff, which is do the complete opposite of what you would normally do in situations where she is frustrated in your M or gets upset, etc. Also, I have learned that, when things do start going ok, maybe piecing, you can't expect them to jump back in 100% overnight. Continue to support & love, but don't push. None of this is easy and like I said I am absolutely no expert, but I have been given lots of advice on these Boards. Read, read, read!!!! the books AND all of the forums that apply.