So glad to hear this Heather and I think it really does sound GRAND!!

Refuse to play. I think I finally know what that means. Finally!

I agree. You aren't playing because you aren't yelling back and accusing him of things to put him on the defensive and you aren't giving in and leaving him in an offensive position. You can stand your ground without forcing him to become defensive and that must feel good for both of you.



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus