Valentines day massacre

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OL,
I think the mood swings are a good reason to detach and LRT.

I can't imagine what it would be like, although I think JBF can. When I first came to this board, I had an 'advisor' who watched his W date the OM while living with him. Somehow, he made it through and is rebuilding his M and doing well (his name is Grasshopper. If you get time, you should look up his story). But I don't think many can do what he did, or have the luck he did (because I think luck has to play a part in this too. Here's hoping you're lucky! :)) You seem to be doing well. Don't be afraid to set your boundaries and defend them as needed.

You can't figure out what she is thinking; why she is nice then the next day evil. She is going through a hell of a lot that I doubt she understands herself.

Made contact with a lot of people I haven't talked to in a while. Talked with fam in PA...

Good for you. Reach out. I've been amazed out how supportive people have been to me. Use them. You'll need help.

It's like the closer we get the farther she runs the next day

this is key, OL. Don't forget this realization. It's true. Back away from her, give her lots of space. Even if she comes to you and wants to be close, be wary. You don't have to be mean, just don't be too available. Maybe you should stop the massages.

I'm not trying to GAL anymore...I'm just doing it more...its more in how I feel than what I'm actually doing....world of difference, that I didn't get before.

You're learning way too fast!

Good luck