Next time she hasn't made plans with the girls. Get a babysitter and even if it isn't your thing take her out dancing or whatever it is she does with the girls, get another couple on board if you can and enjoy yourselves. It might not work for you but that was all I wanted from my H. I didn't really want to be out with the girls. Iwanted to be out doing what I did with the girls with my H. The thing is whilst the H is at home waiting for you, you go out but you've got the knowledge that you've got someone. So you can flirt, have a laugh and nothing more because you don't need to. You then go home and take it out on the person that is your emotional crutch. You can either take that crutch away - it doesn't sound like you want to. Or you can be the party that she's going to with the girls.
I'm speaking from my sitch, but it's got to be worth a try?
