Do you tell you're W what you have told us here. There is a certain way of doing it I hasten to add, and only you know your W.
This sounds very similar to my sitch a year ago. My H was so frightened of losing me he wouldn't say how he felt or stop me doing anything. Needless to say I walked all over him, not because I wanted to, because I thought he didn't care and never thought to ask. I know now that he did care and now he doesn't want me. I do look back though and think if he'd tried to stop me would I still have done the same things because I was blaming him. In my sitch, which I can't say would work for you, if H had admitted some of his downfalls before he said he wasn't happy about something I was doing I probably would have listened.
If you want more info on my sitch it's 'Will he ever change his mind'.
Hope it helps a bit just knowing there are people around who will at least try to understand and help.
