Right now he is digging himself into a BIG HOLE! I called him @ 1 hour ago and asked if he was ok cause he said he'd be home soon @ 6 hours ago!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I can feel your pain. The first reaction is anger, you want to bust his head. But, really YOU are the problem. First, if you wanted him around, then you should have asked him if he would stay with you. He's been gone for two months and probably had some catching up to do with his bud's. If he's up to no good, then the stilleto heals, otherwise two can play at that game. You should have put on your hottest work out clothes and gone to the gym for a couple of hours. Best would be to time it so he get's home, and YOU are out. He's comfortable when you chase, and you get angry that he's out. He like's having you on the hook so to speak. A little intrigue could'nt hurt.
You definately have to get over the intitial urge to get angry though. I had to grow through that too. My W was ALWAYS late. I'm ALWAYS on time. It used to drive me crazy if she said she'd be home at 9:00, and did'nt come home until 10:00. I'd be angry that she did'nt call me and let me know she'd be late. Well, hello, that's just downright childish and controlling. Sure she probably should have called out of curteosy, but I should know my W better to understand she just gets caught up. Plus she's a grown woman and does'nt need to check in. It's much more peaceful, and less stressfull to just ACCEPT them and LOVE them the way they are, flawed as we all are. Go on with YOUR life, and love them when they get home.
Love,
COG
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