What I see many times in your posts, is a 'what's the use?' attitude. Now on the surface, that frustrates a good many of us. On another level, I understand it very well. You feel hopeless and trapped. Two very big symptoms of depression.
More than likely, even if these suggestions sound logical to you, you aren't going to be able to muster the energy of the gumption to try any of them.
If this is the case, I might suggest you take a trip to your doctor and see if there is anything he might recommend for you, or to see if you are, in fact, showing real signs of depression.
If you are sitting there reading this, and you are thinking there might be some truth to what I am saying, but you still cannot find the motivation to go see a doctor, I'd say I'm a little closer to being right than either one of us wants me to be.
There was a really great article recently in Time or Newsweek called "Men and Depression," and unfortunately, I cannot find it. But if you go to your library, you should be able to find it fairly easy, since it was the cover story. However, I did a quick web search and you might find this interesting: Depression in Men on WebMD
You may attribute your irritability to lack of sex, but it could very well be something else. If nothing else, please consider it.
Only until you can get beyond the 'what's the use' attitude, you really won't be able to do anything constructive. Not because you lack intelligence, but because you are dealing with an undermining factor.
From one who has BTDT, I can tell you, depression is not something to take lightly.
