Val,
I think your H has a lot of demons he's facing right now. You know where his heart is... it's with you. BUT, right now, he's not fit to be with you. He is really sinking quickly. I have a feeling, he will hit a new low. I do think he can come back from this, but I think it may still be a while yet given his erratic behaviors as of late. He is doing this all to himself, and he probably knows that he can no longer blame anybody else for his unhappiness.

You are doing well. Stay away from his chaos.

Married 9 years
Kids 5 and 6
Bomb 2006
H back and forth for a year
M now back on track