Hi MrsCac Just catching up on your thread. Your frustration is not surprising or at all uncommon. I think there are some problems with both of you and Cac airing the public grievances with this motley crew on the board. And I say that not because there isn't wonderful insight to be had, but because sometimes too many cooks in the kitchen spoil the meal, kwim? You and Cac need to come to some level of understanding and sense of loyalty/togetherness/team spirit, for lack of a better words, before the board will be positive rather than negative. I think when you are at odds with your spouse, this board can fuel the flames, maybe cause more fights, more over-analysis. But when you are in a more stable place, it can be very enlightening. Sort of like the Nops and how they approach the board as a couple. It works for them. I often wonder if my H came on here if it would just stir up more trouble for us than we really need to get into. Don't add gas to the fire. But with all that said, I support most of your viewpoints and totally understand wanting to get this out and process it on the board. It does help. Maybe you need to weigh the importance of speaking your mind for YOU right now and working on the R/M with Cac in a more efffective manner. But that is not for any of us to judge. Just throwing out my take as something to think about I guess. LFL
