First, I can empathize with both of you. Like cac, I often feel as if I'm expected to read my W's mind. Like cac, I came on this site to unload and have used a lot of unkind words to describe my W. Like mrs.cac, I often feel like my spouse thinks I'm some sort of bonehead, I feel like a bonehead when she talks to me in certain ways, and yeah, I'm pushing back, too.
I don't know if you guys are going to solve anything (except problems in other folks' relationships) by cross posting on here. But if the postings can lead to some conversations between the two of you, go for it. It is, I suppose, a tool in the arsenal of couples communication. You both have valid points. Both of you need to approach each other with a loving, caring, respectful attitude.
One note: you MUST stop backing up files onto a company network. If you don't own the company, I'm sure that the owners don't want you doing this. If you do own the company, you're opening yourself up to some fun battles if the company ever goes bankrupt, and someone wants to go after your personal assets.
Look on lifehacker.com under online file backup or just get a usb external drive. Lots of options, some are even free.
