Been reading through your posts and can very much relate to your sitch. Separated from H 8 months ago. I have 2 small boys (4 and 1). Read DB and DR and have tried the techniques, although to no avail (unless I can't see them). I'm also living in a foreign place but have made some really great friends over the years and am also very close to my in-laws. Thought H's EA was over because OW moved, but recently I'm suspicious that she's moved back and he's now having PA/living with her. Have very little contact with him - only see him on the weekends briefly.
Anyways, I just wanted to say that I can totally understand the ups and downs - the wanting to do anything and everything to save your marriage, but then having those times of feeling like it's totally hopeless and maybe better to give up and move on while kids are still young. Also can't decide whether to stay here or move back to the states. Have tried to GAL - even got a part-time job - but while it's great to have something else to think about, being a full-time mom, I'm finding it very stressful to juggle. Plus don't want to make any sudden changes to boys' routines.
My post is under Newcomer's forum - Finally posting - starting to crash. After my first post, I find this very addicting!
Hang in there.
still hoping
M: 33 MLC/WAH: 33 M 6 yrs, together 12 2 kids: 5,2 Bomb #1: 4/06 - "I don't love you anymore", almost S Bomb #2: 7/06 - EA/PA since late 05, kicked H out/S Bomb #3: 1/07 - "No longer have any feelings for you. It's over.", living w/OW, no talk of D
