I guess I keep "assuming" that making love is the MAIN GOAL for you.
Actually, regaining my self-integrity is my main goal. While it is true that I hope to ML with my wife one day, I am trying to do it by becoming more like the man I used to be back when she was initially attracted to me. I have changed my viewpoints on so many things in order to be more "likeable" by her, and it has ended up having mostly the opposite effect. Plus, it has resulted in my inability to respect myself.
This has always been about being the best Hairdog I can be, and, as a side effect, showing my wife that she can respect me again, trust me again, and choose to commit to the R again. As a side effect of that, how can she resist me? (rhetorical question, no examples needed!)
Hairdog
(Stands and applauds).
Bravo HD. We may call it a SSM but the sex is a small part of it. Most men here could have some semblence of sex with their wives on a reasonably regular basis if that is all they were truly after. What we are after is a healthy, balanced romantic and sexual relationship. If the pursuit of that goal requires us to forego one specific occasion of the possibility of sex in the interest of the emotional and intellectual integrity of the relationship as a whole, so be it.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
