Did stuff both Saturday and Sunday with "the group". It was interesting because I talked a bit to my SIL and told her what a saint she sounds like (at least my H said SHE never complains about who BIL hangs around with). SIL said she also gets tired of hanging out with these two single women. However, she did say she realizes she can't be everything to her husband.
I didn't say any more about him making a decision about whether or not he really wants to be married. I need more time to figure out how to say that.
Meanwhile, H is gone on a 3 day business trip. Gives me a chance to breath! I asked him out to dinner when he gets back. I did make it clear I wanted to go out with another couple or just us (i.e. NO SINGLE WOMEN!).