Mom, I just got caught up. I don't have much advice to give because I think everyone else did a wonderful job at that. I do hope that you feel a little bit better after you see your L tomorrow. I am so sorry this happened to you. I know all to well how it feels. (((((((hugs)))))))
mrsh, your thread locked! I just caught up with your sitch and I can't believe how similar it is!! I know we said this before but it really is uncanny. I am also going to ask for full custody of D's. H left and is having an A and goes a week or more without talking to the girls.
This whole thing just sucks...I really liked the analogy of the closed door... We will get through this...our kids are the world and we need to do whats best for them. I am so angry...right now I am ashamed that H is the father of my children!! How did I ever get fooled by this wolf in sheeps clothing?? HOPEFULLY I will see my L tomorrow to go over all the disgusting paperwork...I still think he is so nervy to ask for EVERYTHING and wants me to pay for it!!! There was no need for it!! As far as your question on mediation goes...I thought about it but my emotions are way to high and I would be afraid I would concede to something I didn't want to.
I know, my thread locked after 12 pages! BUT, I already started a new one under How about a little fire, Scarecrow?
I feel the same way about mediation. I would be afraid that I would make decisions that I would later regret.
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How did I ever get fooled by this wolf in sheeps clothing??
Because when you met him he was Prince Charming and someone put a spell on him and turned him into a nasty old toad! Ribbit! You on the other hand are still a princess. Eventually your toad will fall off his lily pad, hit his head on the rocks at the bottom of the pond, his spell will be broken and he will rise to the top a prince again. Just be careful with him at first, he may have some left over warts! Ewww.....
no offense but I think you have lost your mind too!!! H is definitely not prince material...not even toad material...more like the green slime that sticks to the rocks and attracts flies...
Good luck. Hopefully your L can help untie the knot in your stomach. Just knowing what is possible is always helpful. Remember, just b/c he asked for it all doesn't mean he'll get it.
Just popping by to see how you are doing. I've been out of the loop for awhile so I am trying to catch up!
Good luck meeting with your L today. I understand how hard this all is for you, but unfortunately sometimes the LBS is forced into taking legal action. Our WAS's leave us no choice but to protect ourselves especially fiancially.
Still haven't heard from L...left him message this morning. Discovered H took all Tax document out of the house with out telling me...he is entitled to them but he should have told me he was taking them! probably didn't to keep the surprise of the filing!
H's golf clubs are now missing out of the garage. I am sure no one broke in but he did not tell me he was taking them...gee...maybe I should report them stolen!! I am going to see if I can change the locks on the house and get the garage door opener from him.
I would never have thought I could not trust him....he really is doing things I can't picture him doing!!
I really can't stand any of this...I just want to tell him to drop the entire thing and think about what he is going to lose. The drama and meanness he has thrown into this is really sad! I haven't done one thing to deserve any of it!! Maybe if I was vindictive and rotten I could see it but I am not!!
Hey Mom, I'm so sorry for what has happened. I don't get to spend near as much time on these boards as I would like to...
I haven't been able to read your entire thread so I apologize if you already answered the following question...
Are you in counseling at all? I remember how physically ill I was in the beginning. I couldn't eat for days, I couldn't sleep, etc. When I started seeing my therapist, she reminded me that this is all such an emotional strain that even going without eating or sleeping just adds to the stress. I immediately got on an anti-depressant and sleeping aid. Just getting some sleep helped me tremendously. With a good night sleep and a little boost from the ADs, I was able to combat the emotional stress that much better.
