Stubborn, I don't know what to tell you! Does S want to split? Are you two talking about some fantasy future that hasn't even been broached? Your journal is your journal and you write whatever you choose in it, that doesn't make every entry some gospel truth or written in stone. Can you tell S that? Journals are really just thinking to yourself, are they not? I'm sure it's not a big shock to her to know that you've been speaking to a DB coach, why wouldn't you be? I also wonder if it is time for both of you to sit down and talk with D7 about the sitch? She must now have some inkling as to what is going on. I know I told my D's that mom and dad were "having problems" but that was onlyafter a huge blowout which they overheard and were quite shaken by, W left me to mop up the mess. As parents you will want to reassure her that no matter what, she is loved. She did find your journal and was asking questions. Now, I must ask, is your total rejection of 50-50 time split based on the childs good or your own opposition to separation. Of course, the best sitch would be a loving family with two parents BUT if it can't be (and I'm not saying it can't be) would that not be realistic? Again, I ask and am not imposing any judgements here. I just want you to be clear in your mind what it is that you are doing. Again, why are you two discussing child "time shares" when S has no plans to go anywhere? Sorry, no answers for you, just questions tonight!
