I need to hear you say you won't go there again, I need to hear you say you are sorry for hurting me, I need to hear you say you will do whatever it takes for us to move this M forward, that is what reassurance is".
Well, I would'nt hold my breath. After years of giving my W the exact words I wanted to hear, and years of her not repeating them, I came to the conclusion that it really does'nt matter what she says, it's what she does that counts. Words are important, don't get me wrong, but actions speak much louder. One sure way for me to get my W to NOT say something, is to ask her to say it.
Put more emphasis on the fun day you had together, and less emphasis in the later. Let go of your fears and insecurities, risk it all, again. Your asking him to say certain things is a controlling behaivior. It's YOUR weakness, not his. Having those feelings is very normal, but we have to act way above the norm if we're going to be successful at this.
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Is this normal for them not to know what reassurance is.
They probably know what reassurance is, but they just might not be strong enough to give it regularly. So WE have to be stronger.
Life is not fair, especially for that wild ass cow!
Love,
COG
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