New To Piecing III

[COG]

25years,

I mean no offense when I ask this, but, does your W think the SL was ever good?

Well she admit's that it took her a long time to get comfortable having sex with me. But we NEVER had any issues until post bomb, ten years into M.

Is your wife able to articulate at all, what is no longer there for her to "feel it again"? Does she believe love is at least partly, a choice?

She does'nt believe the "love is a choice" thing at all. She needs to have certain "feelings". She can't really articulate it, believe me I've tried to get her to articulate for six years now. It ain't happening. I just have to trust her on that one. After all said and done, she just might want it to be HER choice, instead of my begging, or manipulating her.

Any warning signs that lead from being a Div Busted to a 2nd go round at the craziness wheel?

Our D IS still busted, I don't consider this a second go around, not nearly. We've both had second thoughts, but we're open and honest with each other about it, and I'm open here about it. How many people have second thoughts about their seemingly perfect M's, and never admit it, like 99.9%? M is a lifetime commitment, through hills and valleys. We're just on a sidehill right now.

So, if she sees that you are a good man who loves her, what's up?

I don't know for sure but I have a new theory. I remember once when I was a lot younger, my brothers and I were trying to load this wild ass cow into a horse trailer. This friggin cow was crazy. We had two ropes on her, and a couple of guy's with 2x4's, and we could NOT get that mother into the trailer. After several cowboy attempts, some broken equipment, a couple near death experiences, we decided to take a break and ponder the sitch. So me being the smartest of the group, came up with an idea. Let's put a flake of hay in there and leave a little trail. We'll sit back have a beer and watch. So we set up a little blind, popped a couple beers and waited. It took about 5 minutes and that stupid old crazy cow starts eating the hay, and walks right into the trailer and bam, we shut the door behind her. She went ballistic, just about jumped through the roof of that old trailer, but she was caught.

So what I'm gonna do now is to put some hay out, pop a beer and take a break. I'll let ya'll know when she's in the trailer.

God Bless,

COG