need a little encouragement

[RedHeadWife]

I truly don't have much advice for you; if you look at my post, you will see that I have an Alien H right now too. He told me that for a long time, he only stayed around for the boys as well. My H has cheated many times, emotionally & physically. The last one was just emotional, however, I am to the point (and maybe I'm wierd), but I figure he either wants me or he doesn't. He needs to step up and take some responsibility for the fact that he is MARRIED and has 3 little boys. And, if he wants some woman who is willing to mess around w/ a married man, she'll probably end up doing it to him some day too if he stays w/ her. I'd just give it some more time, keep DB'ing, and allow him to get to the point where he is comfortable getting rid of the apartment. Plus, if OW already has a new guy and she actually talked to you? I don't think I'd worry about her anymore.