Really, you have worked so hard, endured so much, and kept at it the whole time. All the while, H was living at home, which I think can be so much tougher when you have to face it day in and day out.
I saw so many times when you could have folded, but you did not.
I am so proud of you, for seeing the bigger picture, for gettnig your own life, for enjoying it and all there is.
All the best to both of you.....and to your family!