2 thoughts---first, the OM is not a heck of a guy. Know why? B/C he pursued a married mother of 2. That makes him NOT a heck of a guy. Sorry but you know, after reading All these bb's, I can see that there ARE some absolutes in life. Some things are black and white and some things are just wrong. He was wrong.
2nd--living apart for 2 years. Am on my 20th month of it. H just came for d18's birthday. We are "piecing" I believe, and it looks like I'll join him this summer, with the proviso I can take many "sunshine" visits (he is in Alaska)....but this has been SO hard. And if OM or new OP is in the picture where she is, it's bad news. Also NOT good to split the kids up. Tough if your wife wants D with her. I strongly feel your D should stay with you and not split your children. Just seems weird and wrong to me. What's up with that? Seems to me you'd want to max the time they have remaining, since your son will then be off to college and your wife will miss his last 2 years at home ( as H has with our d18). It's HUGE and HURTFUL and will not feel good to your son. Trust me on that. Plus, your d has a big brother and a father...not with her?
Food for thought. You know your family lots better than I do. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
