Agreed, but then he may not have known how you would take his comment, and if he had known, he might have rephrased it, or maybe not said it at all. That would be out of compassion for you. Which would you prefer? (The discussion over this could go on for days.)
Absolutely. And I think we are in essence saying the same thing. However, part of my tizzy was an attempt at control... who the he!! am I to say how a person should or should not feel?
This underscores my point in why I think boundaries are so important. He feels the way he feels. I can deal with it or not. Does he have to shove it in my face? No. But for him not to talk about it, if he wanted or needed to, and he feels he cannot because he doesn't know if that is going to send me into a 'tizzy' or not... I just don't think that is in any way healthy.
I don't know, I think I am taking this to the nth degree. I guess I am because these boundary issues keep coming into play for me, and I am learning a lot about myself.
Heather: Wasn't feeling defensive, just beating my point with a stick, I think.
