you forgot to add the "my brotha" to the keep on keeping on!!!
Sorry...we have been listening to Vietnam protest songs in class this week and I am all about the peace and calm
Everyone here is giving great advice to you...I really like 25's idea of taking the small stuff. You really do need to start small. PMA and GAL doesn't happen if you are looking for the giant transformations immediately.
I started small and tiny and now...1 year later...I see the giant!!! Work on what makes you feel good and set small reachable goals...I will watch one whole episode of Fawlty Towers and not feel guilty (LSS hated Brittish comedy...that should have been a big clue that he wasn't right in the noggin') I will take a long bath and not worry. I will sleep in the middle of the bed tonight.
They say it takes 15 days for things to become a habit. Try forming new habits. Keep a chart for yourself. If she every asks, you can tell her what it is but you don't need to.
Try forming habits just for you!!! You alone not you as a couple. Each little step is at least a step, right?
