Get a life, be mysterious, act out of character and practice the Last Resort Technique. That's excellent.
What will be some excellent new hobbies/activities that will make you the interesting unusual person you want to be?
Ballroom Dancing?
Karate?
Painting?
Ballet?
Salsa?
Archery?
Knitting?
Kickboxing?
OK Question.....
Tell me...why did you move out? Why couldn't he move out? Looks like he got exactly what he wanted.
As you were describing the situation: I didn't believe he would keep the date nights nor would he go into counseling with an open mind.
Regarding the emotional affair: they almost always lead to physical affairs. Regarding affairs, people almost always lie about them. Your husband wanted you out so he could pursue the affair with his ex. He never intended to "work on the relationship". They all act the same. It's textbook.
