Case in point…Corri, wasn’t it a similar comment from your bf that sent you into a tizzy? Even though that incident seemed to be your issue, it didn’t make you feel any better.
Yep. But if he did not draw a boundary... then I would now be in a position to control his actions, wouldn't I? My insecurity was MY problem. It is NOT his job to make ME feel better by NOT being Who He Is. He can say, "wow, I'm so sorry you feel that way, I'm sorry you are feeling hurt," but to change his behavior to PLACATE my insecurity and jealousy is begging for trouble.
I don't think people should necessarily go out of their way to try and make somone feel bad, or to poke at their insecurities. I think that is rude and disrespectful. But when it comes up... like it did with HD, like it did with my bf... neither one of them did what they did with mal-intent. But once out... neither one apologized for it, either. To do so would be to back off on Who They Are.
