Mopsey, I think the girls need to work this situation out on their own. You and the other girl's parents are only hearing one side of the story, your own child's. If I were you, I'd let it go and allow your daughter to figure this one out. Your h will do nothing but stir the pot up and make life more difficult for your d. It could very well plant in his mind that maybe it would be better if d lived w/him and I don't think you want that idea to grow in his mind.
Given his state of mind, he doesn't know which end is up. Yes, he sees that life is moving on for you and that you are able to move along fairly nicely. He's not wrapped and if he thinks you have men lined up to date you, then it's telling that he thinks that he should have the women after him as well. He's in a fantasy world and is hoping that he should be so lucky. They all think that they are hot stuffs and that women will flock to them. It doesn't always happen that way. They are magnets for the women who see an easy mark. Trust me, he really doesn't want to see you w/anyone else. It's all talk. Smile and say, "H, in the eyes of God, I'm still married and I will honor my vows for a very long time". That should sum it up nicely for him.
I'm very sorry to hear about the situation w/your d and her friend, but they'll work it out. Right now, the other girl sounds like she is jealous of what your d has accomplished. There's resentment there and the only way to stop it is to not acknowledge it. Let the dust settle and your d will figure out a way to resolve it. Your d needs to know that she has a safe place to land when she comes to talk to you. She needs that right now. When she's ready, she'll tell her father.
I hope this helps a bit.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
