Corri, I see what you are saying, but where we seem to diverge is that stating general thoughts of appreciation about the opposite sex is necessary to being true to who you are. I don't believe it is. One of the things that I've learned is that every single thing you think does not have to come out of your mouth. We all know that as human beings, we find other human beings attractive. Just let it be, that's what I'm suggesting. Now, if one feels that they cannot possibly be their true selves without verbalizing those thoughts whenever another human being catches their eye, then I think it's a problem that needs to be addressed by the couple. Otherwise, just let it go because IMO it's a given that we're going to find one another attractive. What good does it do for your R to randomly state who has a great chest and who has fabulous abs?
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
