Hey Hairdog!! So glad to your confidence up, you sound great.
I have a different viewpoint on the whole 'female appreciation' thing, so I'll share because I think I lean more toward your wife's opinion than the others who've posted.
It IS ok to notice other women and to appreciate, of course it is. However. I feel it is disrespectful to verbalize that appreciation in front of your wife. I would be irritated (at best) if my H said something like that and I don't say things like that about other guys around him either. Last night we watched the Departed and OMG let me just tell you, Leonardo DiCaprio has come a LONG way since Titanic, LOL. But of course I would never say that to H or in front of him. H is my favorite fantasy, but do you think he would have felt that way if I'd have been verbally appreciating Leonardo during the movie? Build each other up, that's my opinion. Complimenting another woman in front of your wife is asking for trouble. Right or wrong HD, that's the way it is for me and that may be the way it is for her too. Bottom line-be you, but be respectful.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
