And even though she did'nt like me pursuing for sex, what I learned was that she liked the subtle flirting. We have'nt done that in years. She's actually initiated it several times in the last week. Verbal stuff, not physical, but it's new! She's been teasing me about stuff. Not poking fun at me, but more of a teasing thing. I like it, and I give it back to her.
Sorry, I lost track of your thread and didn't realize the last was locked till today.
I read your posts, when did you start 'pursuing for sex?'
I thought the 'plan' was to flirt, tease and be 'unavailable'?
It sounds like that part was working and is still having some effect. I wouldn't sweat the 'lack of sexual attraction' she claims. I do agree with AmyC, why is she here if she doesn't want to make it work? She's 'entitled' in some way. Not!
In the end, you can say "I was mean, etc," and she can say "You owe me..." however there is nothing written anywhere that says you are supposed to remain in a marriage without intimacy forever.
I have an uncle who lives that life and he's you to a 'T'. He's stuck in his life of quiet desperation wishing he had a normal relationship.
Stick with the flirting, and get some 'special' movies. One of which I reccomend is 'Don Juan Demarco' (Johnny Depp) which is romantic and funny at the same time. Very 'stimulating' say some women.
And I wonder if she is physically in need of some help. Perhaps hormone levels or other issues?
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So it's an ebb and flow kind of thing. We've got to get out of our comfort zone and push the envelope sometimes. Then step back, consider the outcome, and follow the positive's. The fruit of my struggle these past two weeks? We've begun to tease each other. And we all know where a little teasing can lead.
